When it comes to anal, there is no silly question, even because many people do not practice precisely because of lack of information.

That’s why, as a sexologist, I’ve separated the 13 most common questions about anal on the internet with answers without taboos : Is anal sex pregnant? Do you need to use a condom? Does it always hurt? These and other questions will be answered here. Come on!

1- Does anal sex make you pregnant?

You can rest assured, that doesn’t happen, anal penetration has nothing to do with pregnancy! That’s because the channel that takes the sperm to the uterus is the vaginal and not the anal.

The only risk is if there is ejaculation in the anus and the sperm flow into the vagina – this in itself is an excellent reason to use a condom and cleanse yourself correctly after sex.

And if you think this question is meaningless, know that about 3 thousand searches are done every month on Google to clarify it. That is, what is obvious to some may not be obvious to others and that’s okay. Each person has their own learning and knowledge process, when it comes to sex, it’s really bad to be in doubt.

2- Is anal sex nice?

Not everyone enjoys the practice, but if you feel like it, I encourage you to try it because, when it’s done well, it’s delicious. In fact, the cis woman or other people with a vulva can, yes, feel a lot of pleasure with anal penetration.

Pleasure depends on a number of factors such as partnership, will, lubrication, sensitivity, position, whether you are relaxed, etc.

3- Does anal sex need a condom?

The use of condoms is SUPER RECOMMENDED in anal sex. The condom, in addition to the appropriate lubricant, protects the penis from any infection caused by contact with bacteria in the anus.

Not to mention that condoms are the only type of protection against Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs). Did you know that even in oral sex condoms are essential? That’s right, I explain everything in this post !

4- Can anal sex hurt?

Penetration can hurt when done improperly: without lubrication, with tension, without confidence. When the person being penetrated is very aroused, relaxed and trusting in their partner, anal sex has everything to be amazing.

So, if anything is not according to your desire, stop and start again only when you are in the mood and at ease. Forced sex of any kind is not good and you have the right to change your mind at any time!

5- Is anal sex disgusting or stinky?

Anything you do in your anus will stink, indeed! After all, the anus is not a place where flowers come out.

What you can do to lessen the bad smell and possible faeces during penetration is to wash your anus well before intercourse and avoid doing anal until 4 hours after going to the bathroom – see in detail my tips on how to do chuca.

But that’s anal sex, whoever is in the rain is to get wet, have a sincere chat with your partner about the subject so you don’t get embarrassed if there is any “escape” during the coming and going.

6- Can I get an STI while having anal sex?

Yes, and in addition to STIs, you run the risk of getting some other infection if you don’t protect yourself. That’s why it’s very important to know your partner well, keep the exams up to date and, above all, always use condoms.

It is not because anal penetration does not make you pregnant that condoms are expendable!

7- If I have anal sex, am I still a virgin?

There is no consensus on this. Some people consider that, … Read the rest

There are several occasions in which I have received a lot of insistence for practicing anal sex (in my anus, of course).

And, from time to time, I have proposed to the boy in question to also try for his and thus experience together that incredible pleasure that he sold me.

However, his rejection was blunt . He reacted as if his anus was some kind of mystical zone where the entry of any article, or part of the body, was almost a sacrilege towards his person.

What was quite a surprise when, a little later, I learned that it is precisely from behind where men have countless nerve endings that are the direct route to orgasm (without transhipment or anything).

In the case of women, the theme of the points is almost like an alphabet . Give me a letter and I’ll tell you which body part (supposedly) you’re going to climax with.

As Valérie Tasso , a sexologist and Lelo.com ambassador, says, “points appear like mushrooms. What if the G point, the U, the A, etc»

There are so many that, as she herself suggests, “when the letters run out, we can do like the license plates and put numbers” .

Theirs, on the other hand, is simpler, more direct and, even with everything, less well known: Point P , which would be its equivalent.

But why that particular area with how easy it was to get to the genitals? What is it about Point P that gives so much pleasure, but still costs so much to enjoy? The expert solves it for us.

What exactly is stimulated?
The prostate, a male gland located inside the pelvic area under the bladder and in front of the rectum and is between about 3 to 5 cm entering the anus. Its size is similar to that of a walnut and its anatomical shape is reminiscent of a chestnut. Its primary function is, as in the train tracks, the ‘change of needle’, to decide which of the conduits that cross it has preference for passage to the urethra; if the one that allows the man to urinate or the one that allows the expulsion of semen (try a man to ejaculate and pee at the same time and you will see what I mean…).

It also depends on her that, with her contractions (which in this case are orgasmic), the semen is propelled to the urethra. A good pelvic floor allows you to press the prostate at will to maintain control over ejaculation. It also plays a major role in the production of liquid that contributes, together with the sperm produced by the testicles (which is barely 2% of what is ejaculated) and other seminal fluids.

Why does that area give pleasure?
It is the organ that intervenes first in the male orgasm. And because it’s lined with nerve endings, the prostate provides sensations that range from good to really intense when massaged or stimulated. When a man is about to have an orgasm, the first thing that ‘goes on’ is the prostate and, in a matter of half a second, the ejection of semen. In other words, men’s orgasms, even if they don’t know it, happen in two stages: 1) prostate contractions and then 2) ejaculation. The difficulty of noticing these two times is because between moments 1 and 2 there is very little time. And there are not a few men who are unaware of how their orgasmic process works.

How to stimulate it?
The stimulation of the prostate can be done in two possible ways: either from the inside by entering the anus (with the fingers, or with a prostate massager or also directly with anal sex by your partner) or by pressing with the fingers or some … Read the rest

How many times have you gone out to a party and they have assumed that, because you were being nice, you were coming on?

And how many times have you had to say that you were not interested in having anything with a person and he has not stopped insisting until you have taken the trick that you have a partner?

Why do they only leave you alone if they know you ‘belong’ to someone else?

Our notions of flirting aren’t exactly the best. But what if that could change? What if we could party and flirt well?

That was the goal that Shane Purbeck, the sexologist behind the sex education platform , set for herself.

In her first year as executive director of the Punto Morea (Purple Point) in London, she not only carried out the project so that Aste Nagusia 2022 (the Big Week) would have a safe space, but also went further by uniting it with the dissemination of sex education.

“There have always been tents that have promoted free relationships, the prevention of STIs, HIV, but there has never been sex education at Point Morea. Yes disclosure or campaigns related to feminism, but never sex education as such, “says the sexologist.

Its stand, a mix of colors that sweeps Instagram these days for being one of the most photographed corners of the jaias, is not only a meeting point for women of all ages, some of whom come out of curiosity and with a firm conviction others.

“Wait, I’m coming with my granddaughter,” says a lady speaking with one of the technicians in equality at Punto Morea.

Another tells her daughter, while they put on one of the bracelets that have been designed for the campaign (which has the writing ‘Only if it is yes’), that no one should touch her without her consent.

It is also a welcome place so that, as Shane herself tells us, other feminist associations approach to promote sorority with any collaboration.

But, how does getting a position at popular parties help us flirt better?

In addition to the sexual education workshops that are being taught in the different neighbourhoods of London, accompanying the action, the stand is in itself a declaration of intent.

«First of flirting, take note: Yes it is a wish. It is not a limit », says one of the walls where the partygoers are photographed the most.

“There must be a Purple Dot because things always happen,” says the sexologist. “We try to prevent them, but we cannot expect violence to disappear if there is no basic education.”

That is why its stand, in the heart of London’s festivities, is so impressive: «The ‘no means no’ campaigns remain scarce and are based on denial. There is no background on how to learn to relate better».

“Respect, healthy dating, consent, limits and desires ” are the focus of the messages, from sexual education, which appear both at the point (in Basque and translated into English and Spanish) and on the bracelets they distribute.

Others of them are « Myself does not have enough strength, I do not need to add that I have a partner», «The limits I set are to respect myself, not to offend you» and « Without affective responsibility I do not play».

«The proposal was to get to the root of the problem. We need education in how we relate. It’s no use telling us like this you can’t relate. We have to teach how we can do it well and beautifully », says the expert.

Any of the tips to flirt at a party -or anywhere- that they give at the stand?

«How can we say yes to something through assertive communication, conquer ourselves in a healthy way respecting what … Read the rest

Launched on July 20th in the morning, the latest Autoblow features voice control, an oral sex library and adjustable thickness.

Autoblow has evolved a lot. It was introduced in 2008 by John McGill, and the original website described it as “the male sex toy of the future“.

“Technology has brought benefits to people in all aspects of life. We drive cars, fly planes, explore the internet. The technological advancement in sex toys for men is represented by Autoblow.”

Autoblow AI+ is the successor to Autoblow AI from 2018, a masturbator the size of a small wine can with rounded edges. You insert your penis into the sleeve and a ring powered by a small motor moves up and down along the penis in various speeds and movement patterns that you can change in an app. Like its predecessor, the Autoblow AI+ lacks artificial intelligence, but this model is at least connected to the internet and has a downloadable oral sex library, plus voice command.

Cock suckers are trailblazing in society’s view of sex toys. To keep the public interested, sex toy manufacturers have had to constantly add surprising qualities. The Autoblow has gone through all kinds of changes, even if some have been less than great, and McGill believes it’s the male sex toy of the future.

We tested its last variant in 2018, and now we received the latest model from McGill.

Testing Autoblow

The model I received has a clear plastic case, so you can see everything through: the Penis Gripper ring around a silicone sleeve that ends with a human silicone mouth. The product sent to customers will have a white plastic case, so the inside will not be visible.

After taking the toy out of the box, I tried to connect it to the Internet. Unlike other internet-connected sex toys like the Lovense or We-Vibe, the Autoblow AI+ does not have a downloadable app to control the device. It’s a deliberate choice on McGill’s part, because he didn’t want Google and the Apple Store to kick him off their platforms that strictly censor terms related to sexuality. So Autoblow AI+ uses a web app and it took me five minutes to install it properly. I plugged the toy in, turned it on, and held down the pause button until my phone detected a specific network in my WiFi settings, one generated by Autoblow. I had to connect to it, then to my home network, copy and save some characters that are the device password, then exit setup video.

It’s not hard, but you have to have a little patience. And since all the men in my life immediately throw away the instructions whenever they buy a new gadget, I doubt too many will keep them. On the other hand, we can’t underestimate guys who are into sex toys with complex technology.

After I finished setting up the toy, because I still didn’t know if it was safe for real penises, I used a very ripe banana.

As I tried to stuff the banana into the silicone mouth, I realized I needed lube. With lube, it went in like butter with very little effort.

I used several speeds and placed the ring closer to the base, then closer to the tip. As a ripe banana smell began to waft through the room, I thought maybe the toy had pulverized the banana. I took her out to check and found that she was intact, not even a bruise. Delighted, I put the banana back in for round two.

The new model has a voice command feature that is still under development. You can say six commands into the phone: Go, Pause, Faster, Slower, Next, Finish Me – I couldn’t help myself not to say this command … Read the rest