There are several occasions in which I have received a lot of insistence for practicing anal sex (in my anus, of course).
And, from time to time, I have proposed to the boy in question to also try for his and thus experience together that incredible pleasure that he sold me.
However, his rejection was blunt . He reacted as if his anus was some kind of mystical zone where the entry of any article, or part of the body, was almost a sacrilege towards his person.
What was quite a surprise when, a little later, I learned that it is precisely from behind where men have countless nerve endings that are the direct route to orgasm (without transhipment or anything).
In the case of women, the theme of the points is almost like an alphabet . Give me a letter and I’ll tell you which body part (supposedly) you’re going to climax with.
As Valérie Tasso , a sexologist and Lelo.com ambassador, says, “points appear like mushrooms. What if the G point, the U, the A, etc»
There are so many that, as she herself suggests, “when the letters run out, we can do like the license plates and put numbers” .
Theirs, on the other hand, is simpler, more direct and, even with everything, less well known: Point P , which would be its equivalent.
But why that particular area with how easy it was to get to the genitals? What is it about Point P that gives so much pleasure, but still costs so much to enjoy? The expert solves it for us.
What exactly is stimulated?
The prostate, a male gland located inside the pelvic area under the bladder and in front of the rectum and is between about 3 to 5 cm entering the anus. Its size is similar to that of a walnut and its anatomical shape is reminiscent of a chestnut. Its primary function is, as in the train tracks, the ‘change of needle’, to decide which of the conduits that cross it has preference for passage to the urethra; if the one that allows the man to urinate or the one that allows the expulsion of semen (try a man to ejaculate and pee at the same time and you will see what I mean…).
It also depends on her that, with her contractions (which in this case are orgasmic), the semen is propelled to the urethra. A good pelvic floor allows you to press the prostate at will to maintain control over ejaculation. It also plays a major role in the production of liquid that contributes, together with the sperm produced by the testicles (which is barely 2% of what is ejaculated) and other seminal fluids.
Why does that area give pleasure?
It is the organ that intervenes first in the male orgasm. And because it’s lined with nerve endings, the prostate provides sensations that range from good to really intense when massaged or stimulated. When a man is about to have an orgasm, the first thing that ‘goes on’ is the prostate and, in a matter of half a second, the ejection of semen. In other words, men’s orgasms, even if they don’t know it, happen in two stages: 1) prostate contractions and then 2) ejaculation. The difficulty of noticing these two times is because between moments 1 and 2 there is very little time. And there are not a few men who are unaware of how their orgasmic process works.
How to stimulate it?
The stimulation of the prostate can be done in two possible ways: either from the inside by entering the anus (with the fingers, or with a prostate massager or also directly with anal sex by your partner) or by pressing with the fingers or some erotic toy the perineum (from the outside) –the perineum is that area between the testicles and the anus-.
The orgasm produced by direct stimulation of the prostate is much more pleasurable and intense than that achieved by stimulation of the penis. And often faster. In addition, a man who knows how to recognize very well the two moments that we mentioned above can block ejaculation (without stopping reaching the climax. It is what we usually call ‘dry orgasm’) with which he does not need recovery time because he does not lose any energy (the famous refractory and resolution phase), recovers more easily and is capable of having multiple orgasms.
A man can also have an orgasm by stimulating the prostate and the penis at the same time or in succession, it is the most intense sensation of all! According to recent studies, 33% of men report stronger and longer orgasms when incorporating prostate massage.
What do you think is the reason why many heterosexual men are reluctant to dare with the practices that involve their anus?
For a series of topics and beliefs that, curiously, did not exist in classical Greece and Ancient Rome (yes, we have gotten worse…). Really, all these topics take hold when the Clinic begins to coin a series of ‘non-reproductive’ sexual practices and treat sexed subjects under the headings of ‘deviant’, as was the case with the words ‘sodomite’, ‘ homosexual’, etc. that did not exist until a decalogue of these supposed deviations was made in the 19th century (Victorian era).
Currently, prostate stimulation is still associated with being gay. Or in the case of heterosexual men, it is associated with having ‘changed’ orientation. It is absolutely wrong and ridiculous! Another cliché that exists is that if you try prostate stimulation, you will no longer want to practice other erotica. Idiot! Besides, we all have an anus and a rectum. They don’t have a sexual orientation, so why do we want to attribute one to them?
How to get them to become familiar with that area and see it as a source of pleasure?
The prostate, stimulated directly or not, always intervenes. Saying that you don’t like something because ‘they say…’ is as stupid as saying that you don’t like a particular dish without having tried it first. They can begin to experiment little by little by trying anilingus, which is practicing oral sex in which the anus or perineum of one person and the mouth or tongue of another come into contact. It is very pleasant. And continue with a finger (externally at the moment).
As for penetration, it should also be practiced with a finger, very gently, with patience and only when the man is very excited. There is also what we call pegging . In straight couples, women put on a harness and penetrate their partner to directly stimulate his prostate. And they don’t stop being straight… In any case, for things to change drastically, and I am very sorry to insist on it again, a regulated Sex Education subject is urgently needed.
What toys do you recommend to stimulate this area?
Pleasure objects specifically designed for this area, that is, they have a cap. Let’s not forget that the anus and the rectum tend to expel rather than the other way around. When some type of vibrator is used for this part, if there is no stop, our rectum will automatically have a tendency to literally “suck” what has been inserted. So this stop is essential to prevent the inserted object from staying inside. One of the best Lelo prostate massagers is HUGO, both for beginners and more experienced men because it stimulates the prostate both inside and out (through the perineum) thanks to its shape and its two motors. LOKI Wave is another best-seller of the brand. I would recommend it for more experienced men as the introductory part is thicker.
And if we do it with our fingers, do you recommend any technique?
For those new to anal penetration, I recommend starting with the little finger. It is the smallest. More than anything so as not to hurt and for the man to get used to the introduction of the fingers. The ideal would be to gradually prepare this area of our anatomy with a very small plug-in (they are dilators and they come in all sizes). But only if you feel like it. And obviously, use a good aqueous lubricant, as if there were no tomorrow… From Lelo, we have one of the best, our so-called Personal Moisturizer.
