There are several occasions in which I have received a lot of insistence for practicing anal sex (in my anus, of course).

And, from time to time, I have proposed to the boy in question to also try for his and thus experience together that incredible pleasure that he sold me.

However, his rejection was blunt . He reacted as if his anus was some kind of mystical zone where the entry of any article, or part of the body, was almost a sacrilege towards his person.

What was quite a surprise when, a little later, I learned that it is precisely from behind where men have countless nerve endings that are the direct route to orgasm (without transhipment or anything).

In the case of women, the theme of the points is almost like an alphabet . Give me a letter and I’ll tell you which body part (supposedly) you’re going to climax with.

As Valérie Tasso , a sexologist and Lelo.com ambassador, says, “points appear like mushrooms. What if the G point, the U, the A, etc»

There are so many that, as she herself suggests, “when the letters run out, we can do like the license plates and put numbers” .

Theirs, on the other hand, is simpler, more direct and, even with everything, less well known: Point P , which would be its equivalent.

But why that particular area with how easy it was to get to the genitals? What is it about Point P that gives so much pleasure, but still costs so much to enjoy? The expert solves it for us.

What exactly is stimulated?
The prostate, a male gland located inside the pelvic area under the bladder and in front of the rectum and is between about 3 to 5 cm entering the anus. Its size is similar to that of a walnut and its anatomical shape is reminiscent of a chestnut. Its primary function is, as in the train tracks, the ‘change of needle’, to decide which of the conduits that cross it has preference for passage to the urethra; if the one that allows the man to urinate or the one that allows the expulsion of semen (try a man to ejaculate and pee at the same time and you will see what I mean…).

It also depends on her that, with her contractions (which in this case are orgasmic), the semen is propelled to the urethra. A good pelvic floor allows you to press the prostate at will to maintain control over ejaculation. It also plays a major role in the production of liquid that contributes, together with the sperm produced by the testicles (which is barely 2% of what is ejaculated) and other seminal fluids.

Why does that area give pleasure?
It is the organ that intervenes first in the male orgasm. And because it’s lined with nerve endings, the prostate provides sensations that range from good to really intense when massaged or stimulated. When a man is about to have an orgasm, the first thing that ‘goes on’ is the prostate and, in a matter of half a second, the ejection of semen. In other words, men’s orgasms, even if they don’t know it, happen in two stages: 1) prostate contractions and then 2) ejaculation. The difficulty of noticing these two times is because between moments 1 and 2 there is very little time. And there are not a few men who are unaware of how their orgasmic process works.

How to stimulate it?
The stimulation of the prostate can be done in two possible ways: either from the inside by entering the anus (with the fingers, or with a prostate massager or also directly with anal sex by your partner) or by pressing with the fingers or some … Read the rest

How many times have you gone out to a party and they have assumed that, because you were being nice, you were coming on?

And how many times have you had to say that you were not interested in having anything with a person and he has not stopped insisting until you have taken the trick that you have a partner?

Why do they only leave you alone if they know you ‘belong’ to someone else?

Our notions of flirting aren’t exactly the best. But what if that could change? What if we could party and flirt well?

That was the goal that Shane Purbeck, the sexologist behind the sex education platform , set for herself.

In her first year as executive director of the Punto Morea (Purple Point) in London, she not only carried out the project so that Aste Nagusia 2022 (the Big Week) would have a safe space, but also went further by uniting it with the dissemination of sex education.

“There have always been tents that have promoted free relationships, the prevention of STIs, HIV, but there has never been sex education at Point Morea. Yes disclosure or campaigns related to feminism, but never sex education as such, “says the sexologist.

Its stand, a mix of colors that sweeps Instagram these days for being one of the most photographed corners of the jaias, is not only a meeting point for women of all ages, some of whom come out of curiosity and with a firm conviction others.

“Wait, I’m coming with my granddaughter,” says a lady speaking with one of the technicians in equality at Punto Morea.

Another tells her daughter, while they put on one of the bracelets that have been designed for the campaign (which has the writing ‘Only if it is yes’), that no one should touch her without her consent.

It is also a welcome place so that, as Shane herself tells us, other feminist associations approach to promote sorority with any collaboration.

But, how does getting a position at popular parties help us flirt better?

In addition to the sexual education workshops that are being taught in the different neighbourhoods of London, accompanying the action, the stand is in itself a declaration of intent.

«First of flirting, take note: Yes it is a wish. It is not a limit », says one of the walls where the partygoers are photographed the most.

“There must be a Purple Dot because things always happen,” says the sexologist. “We try to prevent them, but we cannot expect violence to disappear if there is no basic education.”

That is why its stand, in the heart of London’s festivities, is so impressive: «The ‘no means no’ campaigns remain scarce and are based on denial. There is no background on how to learn to relate better».

“Respect, healthy dating, consent, limits and desires ” are the focus of the messages, from sexual education, which appear both at the point (in Basque and translated into English and Spanish) and on the bracelets they distribute.

Others of them are « Myself does not have enough strength, I do not need to add that I have a partner», «The limits I set are to respect myself, not to offend you» and « Without affective responsibility I do not play».

«The proposal was to get to the root of the problem. We need education in how we relate. It’s no use telling us like this you can’t relate. We have to teach how we can do it well and beautifully », says the expert.

Any of the tips to flirt at a party -or anywhere- that they give at the stand?

«How can we say yes to something through assertive communication, conquer ourselves in a healthy way respecting what … Read the rest